Do you believe in miracles?
“Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.”Roald Dahl
And I have to say – never a truer word! I mean, he’s a bit famous and successful, right? So I reckon he knows.
You made it through January! The longest, darkest, most miserable month. Give yourself a round of applause! No really, go ahead, clap clap clap! Celebrating your wins is important – who cares if you look silly? You’ll feel great! Try it.
So now we’ve got through the start of 2017, how are we feeling? Still as excited and energised and full of optimism for the rest of the year and all those WONDERFUL and AMAZING things we set out to achieve in the next 12 months?
Yes? No? Unsure?
Well, if you’ve fallen off the resolutions bandwagon, don’t despair. There is still time.
There are new beginnings every single day. You don’t have to cling to a new year to set intentions and goals, and review what’s going well and what isn’t. Each day when the sun rises there is the opportunity to start over. Each hour that ticks by is another opportunity to transform. I also like to use the phases of the moon, but then I am a bit hippy dippy [in case you hadn’t noticed!]
When I am having a bad day, I take a breath, I acknowledge that I am 100% responsible for my life, my emotions, and what happens to me. I move. I get up from where I am and I move. Going outside is the best but even just a lap of the office or running up and down the stairs a couple of times helps. Moving creates new energy, and if you’re having a bad day, you need some new energy! Then I get myself a drink, and decide to take control of mindset. My head needs screwing on properly, so I get straight to work with that.
I have a few techniques for this, depending on the level of despair at any given moment. Sometimes, a few star jumps and singing to a couple of my favourite songs does the trick. Other times I need to go on a ten mile hike… It really depends how much of a fuzz I am in.
Other little tricks include:
Write a list
This can be a list of all the shit that is driving you mad. Or a list of all the things that have gone right lately that you are grateful for. Or a list of all the things you need to get done. Or a list of all the wishes you want to come true. Putting pen to paper is both cathartic and motivating. You can get out all of your woes, remind yourself of everything good in the world, and then get going on taking action towards the person you want to become – the best version of yourself. There is also some science around the effectiveness of seeing words in your own handwriting – they have a bigger impact than typing on a screen. And thus, your bad day is turned around with a little ten minute exercise.
I like to give myself something to look forward to. This might be coffee with a friend in a week’s time, or a drink in the local pub that evening. It might be booking a holiday or a spa day. It might be a cuppa round a friend’s house, or cooking dinner for your extended family [I don’t advise this, I mean we’ve only just had Christmas! But your family might be more functional than mine, so ya know, just a suggestion…!]
Watch TED Talks
There is a TED talk for EVERYTHING. If you’re overwhelmed because you don’t have enough time to get things done – there’s a TED talk for that [Anne shared one in the Facebook group, go check it out]. If you’re feeling like you’re not important, no one cares, and your existence is futile – there are several TED talks for that. If you feel like you’re failing as a parent, or the world is going to shit and you don’t know what to do about it; if you feel lonely, or that your relationship is on the rocks… There are TED talks for everything. TED’s tagline is ‘ideas worth spreading’. If you’re not familiar with TED talks, get yourself on YouTube and start searching. TED have conferences where guest speakers give a 10-20 minute talk that shares an idea which will inspire and enlighten. Talkers range from CEO’s of corporate giants, to founders of social enterprises, and people who invented solutions from their own kitchen counter. Anyone with an idea worth spreading.
Listen to audiobooks or read
If my mindset has faltered and I can’t seem to put my head on straight, I turn to Audible. I prefer listening to books because I can get through them quicker than when I read, but you might prefer paperback or kindle. However you consume them, there are millions of books out there that will level up your mindset and get you back on track. If you want a reading list then get in touch, I have a whole load up my sleeve. Alternatively, check out the thread in the Facebook group to read other’s recommendations and share your own.
Call a friend
We are all really bad at this. When our mindset starts on a downward turn, the last thing we think of doing is calling a friend. We don’t want to burden anyone, we don’t want to appear vulnerable. But the truth is, your friends aren’t going to feel burdened. And the sooner you pick up the phone the less your despair will develop. Catch that bastard before it becomes dark and heavy! Your friends are likely going to be glad to hear from you! The most important thing for me over the past few months has been my tribe, my cheerleaders. Invariably, when I open up about feeling a certain way, they share with me and lift me up. Community is everything. If you don’t have a community, join the Facebook group and start building one with us.
It should also be noted that I do these things all the time, daily/weekly, to exercise my PMA [positive mental attitude], because your mind is like a muscle, it needs regular training. Don’t wait until you’re having a bad day, level up your mindset NOW!
So January is over, and the darkest days are behind us, set some new intentions, congratulate yourself for your January wins, and get excited for Spring! February is only for 4 weeks!! Wont be long until we see some cherry blossom! Woo! [Can you tell that winter is my fave?]
Let me know in the comments or the FB group what you do to level up your mindset, and what wins you’ve experienced this January. I want to cheer you on!