“Choose only love, in every moment, in every circumstance.”

– Melissa Ambrosini

This book was gifted to me many months ago by a friend who continues to guide, love and support me throughout my journey. I am eternally grateful to her for all of her wisdom and the never ending stream of resources and book recommendations she has for every situation. Thank you <3

So now I am gifting it to you.

I have to be honest, I find it hard to believe that a lot of what is in this book is an exclusively female experience. And the feminist/equalist in me cannot continue without stating that. If you’re a guy, read it! It is mostly a human experience imo. And if you are a guy, and you do read it, please let me know what you think! I am eager to know if you relate to what she says! Surely guys aren’t entirely from mars?? Anyway…

Melissa covers everything from self love and self worth, to money, relationships and letting go. She teaches how to master your mean girl, you know, that horrible evil witch inside your head? That’s what Melissa calls your mean girl.

The wonders of synchronicity resulted in me listening to the money part on my way to work one day when I was particularly plagued with money worries. She spoke a lot of sense! Melissa states that money itself isn’t bad, but if you spend it on things that don’t light you up, that is where the disconnect happens. Money is an energetic exchange, therefore if you hand over your money to purchase things that do not align with your values, then you’re doing the wrong energetic calculations, and that is no good for anyone.

So. Much. Wisdom.

I have a lot of work to do on my money mindset, and this section of the book presented this topic to me in a way that I had not engaged with it before. It was really interesting to hear Melissa’s perspective and to view money with a different lens.

Another wonderful synchronicity came when I got to the chapter about relationships. The night before I listened to this chapter, I had been having a conversation with a friend about the difficulty in finding balance and partnership in a relationship. All I have known up til now is either intense codependency (or even just one-sided dependency on my part) or intense singledom. And actually, right now I find that being single is more comfortable than the idea of being in a relationship, because my experience of relationships has been this intense dependent blerrrr that I no longer want to participate in. “There must be a middle ground!” I said…

Well, a few hours later on my way to work Melissa beautifully articulated what that middle ground looks like:

“We enter a partnership to inspire and support the other person to be the fullest expression of themselves.”

Wow. If only we all entered into relationships like that. Wanting to love and support that person so completely that we enable and encourage their growth, celebrate their wins and completely buy into their dreams and ambitions. Imagine. (Well, maybe you don’t have to imagine. Maybe you are already blessed with that kind of partnership. Divine.) That’s what I’m aiming for…

Melissa isn’t just about telling you how to live your best life, she is also about empowering you to take inspired action, because inspiration without action is meaningless. So the entire book is littered with what she terms “inspo-action” activities. She invites you to answer questions and write your own affirmations and participate in the book completely. Which I, of course, love!

Give it a read and let me know what you think in the comments below.

“The only person who’s going to stand up for your needs is you.”

– Melissa Ambrosini